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8/23/20 Update:

It has now been 7 weeks since Braden has started his program at Liahona.  He is starting to make progress and beginning on the point system.  He just finished his disclosure letter.  This is a first step for him to acknowledge his past problem behaviors and first step to healing and building trust.  Please pray for us as we walk through this.  It was very emotional for me to read and I am still processing.  As parents we try to protect our children from making bad choices but we unfortunately can not make choices for them.  He sends weekly letters and hopefully soon we will be able to talk by phone.

Here are some quotes from his recent letters:

“I pray for you guys when I can.  I am starting to get in the routine of praying every day because I had an unhealthy relationship with my family and an unhealthy relationship with God when I was home.  While I am here I am hoping to fix those relationships.”

“Mom, I was wondering if you could tell Lane that I really miss him.  Also that I look up to being like him and that I am thankful that he has taken time to hang out with me. I have realized that I need more friends like Lane.  The “friends” that I had at school weren’t really my friends, but people like Lane have a strong spiritual and valuable relationship with me that makes me feel true happiness and not instant gratification.”

“Thank you mom for sending me here, it was the right choice.  I will face failure, criticism, and many challenges, but I will most definitely accomplish my mission of changing as long as I keep trying my best and pushing forward.  Thank you mom for sending me a Bible ASAP so I can start reading it and applying it to my life to help me through my journey.”

I send notes to him weekly from our family.  If anyone would like to include some encouraging notes I am sure he would appreciate it.  At this point in his treatment you would need to send to me and then I will forward to him.  He says he is missing home but he knows he needs to be there so he can learn to make good decisions.

The girls are doing well.  Rachel now has her temp driver’s license and we try to practice daily.  We have not ventured onto the highway yet.  That is our next step.  She is enjoying her volleyball season with her first game tomorrow evening.  She will be in 11th grade.  Lauren will be starting 9th grade and is enjoying marching band.  She plays the clarinet.  Hannah will be starting 6th grade and Grace 3rd grade.  They will all be starting ballet again after Labor Day (or at least I hope so).  I start back at work on Monday, August 31st.  They begin the Tuesday after Labor Day but only will be attending every other day.  It’s going to be a tough schedule as a single working mom especially getting through this COVID season.

I am starting to read the book “When Love is Not Enough” by Nancy Thomas.  It is a guide to parenting children with Reactive Attachment Disorder.  I have read parts before but this time I hope to read front to back with some reflective note taking.  Parenting is tough but parenting adoptive/foster kids is tougher.  I am having a hard time realizing school is starting and Braden won’t be there.  He is missing his golf season and his Junior year.  It is a time to learn and grow for all of us.

Thank you again for your prayers and continued financial support.  We have currently raised $900.

Update 7/30/20:

I talk with Braden’s counselor weekly. It has been 4 weeks since he began his treatment. He is struggling with adjusting to the program, which is typical at this point in his stay. The program uses a point system and as Braden earns points, he earns privileges. Points are given according to positive behavior, cooperation, school participation, daily evaluations, attendance, following rules, and passing the quote of the day.
On a more positive note these are quotes that I have taken from the most recent letter that I received from Braden:
“One quote I have learned since I have been here is ‘If something doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you’. I really like that quote because I know in the past if there was an easier way to do something, I would’ve taken the easy route even if it was the wrong choice.”
“I feel like another thing I want to work on while I am here is becoming closer to God. Before I came here, I didn’t really like church or listening to services but I’m working on my relationship with God while I am here.”
“Everyone who works here is committed to helping me change and I really like that about this place.”
“I love you all very much and I hope you know that I think about you every day. I love you.”
His letters make me cry. I love to get them but they are emotional. I have range of emotions on all this….relief, anger, happiness, sadness, fear, guilt….
Relief that turmoil in the home is gone but anger that it had to get to this point. Happiness that Braden is receiving help but sadness that I can’t hug him and talk to him every day. Fear that I made the right decision for our family. Guilt that he is not here everyday and experience life with us.
Thank you as always for your support, love and prayers!
If you are able to help financially we are still looking for donations. Donations made on this page through Adoptive Families Coalition are tax deductible and 100% of the money raised is sent directly to Braden’s treatment provider.
Thank you all who have given already. I will be sending a personal note soon. I have been so busy with family and life has been a battle right now.
THANK YOU!

Adoptive Families Coalition (AFC) is writing to you on behalf of Braden’s family. We are assisting them in funding their son’s treatment not covered by insurance. There are very few resources for adoptive families who face the challenges of expensive and lengthy care. We need a community of support! Please consider if you can make a one time or monthly donation to offer Braden a bright future.

100% of your tax-deductible donation goes directly to the treatment provider. Thank you! 

 

AFC is a non-profit organization dedicated to the holistic support of adoptive families. Families who faced similar challenges firsthand and understand the need for support founded the nonprofit.